In it, she talked about how your vision dictates your goals dictates your ability to win.
She listed four things every leader should do to help increase success, including allow imperfection and to study history.
But the one that has stuck with me since I read the post was, “Have “no” men.”
We all know about “yes” men, but do you have “no” men? This is someone, or a group of people, you can trust to help you step out of your own head, and clearly examine the situation objectively. These are people who will not only tell you where weak spots might be, but help you actively see them on your own by being able to clearly communicate in a way that resonates.
This is advice every leadership book and coach in the world gives.
I have taken this advice. In fact, my entire team is made up of “no” men. And, let me tell you, it’s hard.
When you start a business from the ground up, put all of your sweat, tears, heart, and money into it, and have your entire life wrapped into it, it’s really hard to hear your baby is ugly.
Because that is exactly what “no” men do. They tell you your baby is ugly…and then help you figure out how to make it pretty.
You waffle between wondering why things have to change when it’s been working great all along and wondering why you didn’t make the suggested changes (or think of them yourself) a zillion years ago.
Sometimes “no” men want to make change for change sake and sometimes they want to make change because it’s the right thing to do.
As the leader, you have to figure out the difference and either push back or set your ego aside and listen. Really listen. And then take action.
So how do you decipher between change for change sake and change that will make a difference?
First, put your ego aside. It’s not easy. You can do it. I promise.
You may cry. You may get really frustrated. You may get angry. You may have to drown your sorrows in a bottle of wine (not that, you know, I’ve ever done that).
Then you’ll pull on your big boy pants and follow these steps:
Being the big boss is more about conceding control, motivating people to succeed, and coaching them to be their very best. If you can’t do that because your ego is in the way, no one will win.