11 Things You Need to Immediately Stop Doing on Facebook

Daniel Zeevi
Daniel Zeevi Founder & CEO, DashBurst

Posted on March 18th 2013

11 Things You Need to Immediately Stop Doing on Facebook

dislike-button-stop-signAre you getting tired of Facebook or some of the behavior of your friends on the site? Facebook is the most popular social network with over 1 billion active users. And with great popularity comes some shameful characters looking to tap into Facebook's viral market to sell you their crappy products or scheme your money through affiliate links or worse. So if you happen to find yourself doing any of the 11 following things, you should look to stop doing so immediately before all of your friends look to jump ship!  

1. Tagging Random People in Photos

Please stop tagging people you barely know in photos that have nothing to do with them. It's one thing when your buddy tags you in an unphotogenic pic, then sends it out to friends for some laughs, because, hey, at least it's you. But the people I'm talking about upload photos and tag as many people as they can to try and gin up as many likes as possible. This is a classic move by spammers so be cautious of anyone who does this. I've had to call out several individuals over the years, even friends for their random tagging, and you should do the same in any suspect post. Sending a personal message to them to stop could work, too, but I feel like if some goofball wants to tag me in every one of his posts, he must be looking for my input so I give it to him publicly right then and there. Yes, revenge is a dish best served cold...  

2. Cross-Posting From Twitter

Look, I understand you're a little short on content and things to say. We all basically post the same stuff on Twitter, Facebook, Google+, etc. but at least have the decency to not automatically send your Twitter tweets to Facebook. For one, you'll get much less engagement posting to Facebook via any third-party app let alone Twitter which basically disregards Facebook etiquette. If you do this, it's a clear sign you're not really engaged on Facebook or maybe just too lazy to post yourself, either way a fail. facebook fail 

3. Liking Your Own Posts

So you've just posted the cutest cat or baby picture ever. That's cool, I guess. But then you go ahead and like your photo too. Well, I know you already like the post, aren't you the one who just shared the damn thing? Besides being annoyingly repetitive, the real reason people feel the need to do this is that the action of liking the post will again show up in the streaming news ticker, giving the post even more exposure (it's potentially seen twice). These are typically the moves of self-proclaimed "social media gurus" or people who just feel insecure about their status posts.  

4. New Page Invites

Look, I understand you need to create a page for your business, but please stop inviting me to your half-ass Facebook pages. Instead post interesting content to your own page, share it on your profile as well (so your friends see it), and if people find it interesting they will follow. It's almost not your fault, as creating a page and inviting all your friends can be tempting, but most of your friends won't like your page and maybe they won't like you anymore either. And the ones who do like it would've probably found it anyways without your begging them to do so. So don't do this... facebook messages what you really sound like on Facebook 

5. App Requests

If you're on Facebook all day playing Farmville, that should be embarrassing enough, and the last thing you should ever want to do is invite your friends and alert them to your nerdiness. And I can't even explain to you the ill feeling I get when I receive a request to join Klout, for example, even though I've already registered, from one of my less intelligent friends.  

6. Suggesting Friends

Please stop suggesting I friend somebody else. You playing match-maker is a little creepy and I might start to question why you and I are friends instead. And it's actually worse than creepy because, you see, on Facebook expert spammers pair up and start suggesting up to 50 random friends for each other. By doing this, the people they suggest will get the notification (in their friend requests) and may mistakenly think the spammers requested the friendship. In reality, the spammers want you to commit the first step by adding them as friends (essentially tricking you to friend request them). Facebook penalizes people for requesting too many friends, but spammers who pair up and suggest friends for each other escape notice since they are not actually doing the requesting.  

7. Adding People to Random Groups

This one's a big pet peeve of mine. A classic text-book spam artist move, people will add you to random groups without your knowledge and all of a sudden you're signed up for every single notification for each posts to the group. If this happens to you, make sure to leave the group or at least turn off the notifications within the group settings, as well as question the friendship with the culprit who added you. You don't want to be the person known for doing this on Facebook, it's a huge red flag.  

8. Off-base and Mass Messages

Stop sending mass messages with dozens of people attached. You've seen these before, like "please like my page" or "vote for me in this ridiculous award I can't win," etc. People loathe being addressed in this style, and if you really have something to say at the very least personalize your message to each individual or, better yet, refrain altogether from sending out mass messages. After all, it's straight out of the guide to spamming. please vote what really happens on Facebook 

9. The Ridiculous Event Invite

I'm honored you want me to come to your poetry reading in Siberia, but I'm not quite sure I'll be able to make it. When you send mass requests to a bunch of people you don't really know, it makes you seem inconsiderate and pretty much paints you as a spammer.  

10. Overdone Like Buttons

Somehow I've ventured over to your blog only to be greeted by an alarming pop-up Facebook "like" box baiting me to like your page. And then, when that goes away, I can barely even see your blog post because of the 100 "like" buttons strategically placed throughout your site. too many like buttons 

11. Poking People

Always sort of a joke, it might be time to finally retire this Facebook feature. Something just feels off every time you poke me. No matter how you cut it, there isn't a single situation in which poking someone is acceptable.   poke me again i dare you   If you are one of the millions of people committing these crimes on a daily basis, please refrain from doing so at once! You know who you are. I promise you whatever you're trying to sell or market will have a much better chance if you come up with some honest hard-working tactics like creating or curating interesting and relevant content as opposed to relative social media douchebaggery. get more likes you wouldn't do this in the real world create awesome thingsComics via The Oatmeal, Facebook stop sign by Steve Lovelace

It's that simple folks, avoid these 11 things and one day you can go from a spam-bot back to being my friend! Does anything else annoy you about Facebook?  

Daniel Zeevi

Daniel Zeevi

Founder & CEO, DashBurst

Founder of DashBurst, Daniel is a social media scientist, web developer, graphic designer and author. He researches trends from the top industry leading resources to provide businesses with actionable intelligence to create viral websites and social media marketing campaigns. He is also a futurist and content curator always on the hunt for disruptive new technology, creative art and web humor.

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Comments

Excellent article.  Thanks for the hints.  I admit, I find myself doing several of these.  Not anymore!

Have to say I agree with all of these!

Do you work for The Oatmeal? If not, this really needs crediting to them. I love that comic!

Great article! I would love to have your permission to translate it to Spanish and post it to my blog. All credits would remain yours ofcourse.

I agree with all of these, and stopped my crazy poke wars long ago.

I do tend to unfriend people who have terrible grammar. One of my big pet peeves is using "anyways" instead of "anyway". (Insert giggle here.)

I say this because my expectation for excellent grammar on Facebook is probably much too high, so I try to relax a bit. There are however, some people that just make me nuts!

This article should be shared to every Facebook account in the network.

Jules, The Grammar Police of Awesome House PV, www.awesomehousepv.com

I definitely agree on this one. This article should be posted on Facebook for people to actually be aware that the non-stop poking is insane.

Great article! It also works for corporate pages. :)

I really like the "Stop liking your own status" haha

 

 

A new annoying habit - letting all your likes on Instagram to show on Facebook. I soo donät care if you like those pretty cupcakes or abnormal, muscular thighs.

Haha totally agree. I wonder how stupid you need to be to like your own post hahaha xD
Or No1, I hate when someone tag me within 30 people I don't even know in some stupid ad photo of some fashion item >_<
Great post! ;)

Great article, very amusing and on target!  Truly enjoyed reading and will now post to FB in an un-annoying fashion.

Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for posting point #3. It is by far my biggest social media pet peeve. (Though, I've found that most of the time, it's people thinking they're acting as their personal account when they're really acting as the brand page itself to like said status.)

Excellent article - mad props! (That's still a cool thing to say, right?)

LogicMaybe

"I wonder how stupid you need to be to like your own post"

I wonder how stupid people need to be to use facebook.........   Useless service.

Well done, Daniel! Delicately and amazingly penned down...
Every point i read and i thought to myself... 'Oh yea... dats annoying!' (though i din do any of those instead i receive such kind of requests, pokes and invitations).

One more to add on to the list (which again annoys me a lot): Game requests!
Can anyone kindly suggest, how can I get rid of them???

Thanks!
and Great going, Daniel.. Look forward to more....

 

Useful article, till this time I beg others to like mine, but now itself I take a decision that never ask anyone " Like "


Thank you very much

Nice article, Daniel! I love how you worked The Oatmeal into your post. 

Almost all of these points are relevant to Facebook business pages as well. For example, point number 3: Liking Your Own Posts. It is so redundant when any person or business does this. I completely agree.

Begging for likes is also a no-no. Likes should be generated through genuine interest in your content - sympathy likes do not fit into that category. 

Some businesses get lost on how to generate content that will actually produce engagement (such as likes, comments and shares).

Thankfully, there's such thing as a "Facebook post formula" to get businesses inspired and on the right track to legitimate engagement. My colleague Nick wrote a great post that includes 8 Sure-Fire Facebook Post Formulas That Drive Engagement. He started by studying the top posts from the top brands on Facebook, and dissected them to see what components were involved in the virality. 

It's really come in handy when I can't think of what to post on client's Facebook business page. I hope it can help others as well!

Cheers, 

Cara

 

 

 

Love this  Both the content and the format are fabulous.  I would add one more. PLEASEstop changing your profile picture over, and over, and over. I must have missed the memo that said doing so will get you noticed.  I notice you and I also get annoyd by you

 

Jean

 

enjoyed reading this...great article...!!!

There are two reasons why I "Like" my own posts -- and neither one is a reason given in the article about why other people do it.

1) When people see that someone "Liked" a post, they are more inclined to "Like" it too than if it looks like no one has "Liked" it. (And people often don't bother checking first to see who the other people were who "Liked" it.)


2) Facebook deletes some or much of the old content that is on our timeline. Statuses that receive "Likes" tend to be left on our timeline. So by "Liking" our own statuses, we help keep them from being deleted later on.

 

Facebook is not as fun as it used to be. It was nice when you can come on here and first of all have some privacy. No matter who much you adjust your privacy settings, it is really not private. Also I am not liking how they aka fbook is also making it so only a portion of your posts you post are not being showin in the newsfeed. It is because eventualy they want you to pay for your posts to be shown. Also I had a page on Fbook called "Postiive Inspirational Quotes" which is a motivational and Inspirational page. One dayI came on to fbook to go to my page to post a quote, and come to find out fbook took my page down, because I had over 1million fans and I was getting like 2,000 to 5,000 likes a day and they were not liking that because I had so many fans and that i should be paying to have that many fans. But they did not let me know they were removing my page, they just went in and took it down, like it was no problem, even though the person who owned the page is left in the dark, wondering what the hell happened fbook removed my page without any notice, email or warning that they were removing my page. I am not happy with fbook and I really cannot wait for the day it fails and goes downhill to where it will be like Myspace..By the way..I miss Myspace and wish it would come back. . My opinion of fbook..Sucks!!!! Not as fun as it used to be. They keep making stupid changes that are making people back away from fbook. Hope more back away to where they lose their stocks and blow up. 

Seems like this article has a bit of ranting going on in there. But I guess it's okay. Things in the past are the way it is and it's hard to stop trends for the new generation. I think kid these days and people trying to keep up with what they think are the cool trends have already figured it out; get with the program/join the masses or learn not to care/learn to ignore. 

Maybe people should try to find out why people do the things they do. Why do you change profile pictures every day/every hour? Why did you suggest that "friend" to me? Why did you tag me in this picture? Why do you want me to 'like' this page? Why did you add people you don't even know? Why...etc.?

We just get grumpier as we get older. We get a bit more life experience and sometimes we try to dictate how things should be; what you can/can't do, what you should/shouldn't do, how you should/shouldn't use this product, etc. 

 

Somehow I feel the article was too wordy and ranty. It was alright, but did have good points.

Whew... you ARE grumpy! LOL! The only thing that annoys me is the tagging. I actually lost a 'friend' because I asked her to not tag me so much. She was tagging me with 49 other people like 4 times a week and I was getting overwhelmed. She felt I didn't want to support her business, unfriended me, and blocked me. She was actually someone that I know OUTSIDE of FB and we're no longer friend at all cause of that. What ever. Anywho... I was looking for a way to remove "Seen by" in my groups. I notice some have it and same don't. I don't like that feature. Do you know how to get rid of that? Fun article, BTW. I just also wondered "WHY" people get mad at someone that chooses to 'like' their own stuff? It's not hurting anybody. Oh well... thanks!

Although I agree with most of these, I think you got a little petty and nasty as you wrote further down the list.  I undrestand the frustration and wanting to get your point across (and maybe an attempt at humor), but if you want people to take you serious and respect your advise/opinion, you might want to attack and insult a bit less.

I agree with another comment that people constantly requesting me to join games over and over, is quite annoying. I know that the reason they make the request is because they get more points or rewards if they get more people to join, but it is so annoying to have 10 requests to join games that I don't have time for and really don't care about, and I have to weed through those requests (and delete them) to see if there is anything important posted.  I think there is a way to block these, but you have to block each game individually.

Also, regarding #3 which many people agreed with, I think it's funny...ironic, that I read an article, right before this one, on why you SHOULD "Like" your own posts. Read article here:

http://www.ricksdailytips.com/why-you-should-always-like-your-own-facebook-posts/

 

I agree with another comment, that FB is a lot more work than fun nowadays. Because Facebook is always trying to maintain control, and never letting you be in complete control of your own page, it drive people to do crazy things. IMHO

There seems to be a trend of people getting fed up with each other on Social Media. This morning I outed everyone in a post entitled 15 People Ruining Social Media. Check it out: http://www.marcensign.com/15-people-ruining-social-media/

I found this to be very hilarious, you've got some good nuggets in there.

some of that was on most off. Liking your own posts helps it stay in your feed (so you can find if you go back to look for it and it's gone like all your other fb posts that disapoear) as well as friends who might not get on as often as some others do. 

Pokes are a way to say hey instead if having to have a convo with every sungle friend on fb....just keeping in contact. You people take shit way too literally.

 

So... basically you just took an Oatmeal comic, cut it up and tried to pass it off as your own.