Socially Stephanie: Social Media Outreach & Networking

StephanieFrasco
Stephanie Frasco VP, Social Media, Convert With Content

Posted on June 1st 2013

Socially Stephanie: Social Media Outreach & Networking
social media advice
Dear Socially Stephanie,
I'm a shy guy. Ever since I was little. Meeting new people, making phone calls, even just casual conversations at cocktail parties...it's never been easy.

You'd think the social media revolution would have been the answer: fewer face-to-face meetings, just dash off an email and hit send! But it hasn't gotten easier. I'm a real estate agent, and while my colleagues have seen great results and gained a lot of new leads through social media, I'm still struggling.

I'm not asking for dating advice or anything. It's just that the whole point of social media is to network, online schmooze, and I've never been good at that. I feel like I'm kind of being fake or doing it wrong. Are there any best practices or tips you can offer?
 
Awkward in Atlanta

social media best practices

Dear Awkward in Atlanta,

Listen carefully. What I am about to tell you can change your online social life. No, seriously. Just as there is no wrong way to eat a Reese's, there is certainly no wrong way to reach out to someone online. Yes. There are just good ways, and not-so-great ways.

(Okay, I take that back. There are a few bad ways, like sending a naked picture of yourself, or trashing a competitor, for instance. But these are all things you know. Right?)

social media outreachThe thing to remember here is authenticity. Because our suspicion levels are heightened online, the best way to reach out is to be yourself and connect with people on a human level. People on social media expect to be talked to. That's why they are there, after all. So, clear your voice, shake out your fingers, take a deep breath and start a conversation.

The first step is to identify who you want to talk to. A little social listening on the different networks goes a long way here. Start following keywords that relate to you and your business (in your particular case, real estate), and soon you will be able to see a trend of what people are talking about and, more importantly, who is talking about it.

LinkedIn and Twitter will be your primary networks. Reaching out cold on Facebook can seem a little creepsville, and there is no real way to reach out on Pinterest, so we can scratch those off our list. But that's okay, because they aren't really your target networks anyway.

Not sure what to say? Here are a few openers for both Twitter and Linkedin that will help you get over your social stage fright.

1. The Praise

Everyone likes to be praised. Open with a compliment and you are sure to be heard. 

@soandso Loved your article on the latest Atlanta real estate trends. [Then provide your own insight or question here.]

2. The Common Ground

Because the Internet is so vast, there are people out there talking about literally everything. Bridge that gap with common ground.

@soandso I saw that you're interested in those new developments going up near Peachtree Plaza; so am I. Have you heard any info about when they're going to be finished?

3. The Offer For Help

This opener requires a little social listening but if someone is asking a question, it's probably not rhetorical. That person wants an answer. Here's your opportunity to shine.

@soandso I saw that you're looking for an office space in Buckhead. I can help with that. How much space do you need?

Bam: conversation opened.

As a rule of thumb, you will want to close with a question. Make it an open-ended one that requires an answer back. If someone doesn't have a reason to respond, they probably won't, but don't be discouraged. Remember this is a relationship you are trying to build, and that takes time. The initial outreach is the courting period, the time where you get to know each other. And as you would on a first date, you want to present yourself in the best light.

Follow my advice and keep working at it, and you'll soon become the life of the social media party. Good luck!

Socially, 
Stephanie

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StephanieFrasco

Stephanie Frasco

VP, Social Media, Convert With Content

Stephanie Frasco is a leading social media consultant and author. Over the past 7 years, she's worked closely with clients from all over the world to help them get more results from social media and blogging. Through experience, Stephanie has mastered some of the most powerful social media websites. Download her engagement report.

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Comments

Rustam
Posted on June 1st 2013 at 8:02AM

Thanks for this post - great info.

Regards

Rustam

Warren Whitlock
Posted on June 7th 2013 at 12:09AM

I'm reminded of the woman who saw our Twitter dicussion about GIVING FIRST and said "I give and I give. I don't feel appreciated and don't get what I want"

I thought long and hard about this. There are situation where people get abused as givers and by all means, we should help them escape where we can... but here we are talking about networking, and I'll assume that no one is getting beat up in the social media parking lot.

The answer then is simple. "If you aren't getting enough, give more"

Feeling social akward? Go help someone. 

A) You're bound to find someone in at least as much need as you

2) You'll feel better about giving than "trying to meet people"

As soon as you truly get to giving without regard for getting,  you'll find  you get more than you ever thought possible.

StephanieFrasco
Posted on June 7th 2013 at 3:47PM

Great points Warren.