"Experience informs us that the first offence of weak minds is to recriminate" Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Negative people typically suffer from what I call the three "C's" and are usually found to be:
Criticising, condemning or complaining.
I think that of all human traits, negativity is the one that frustrates me the most. In fact I sometimes feel as though I have spent my entire life crusading against negative people.
So, to negative people wherever you may be, here are some tips to help you overcome negativity and to recognise it in others.
First of all, develop and build your own understanding of what is really negative. Do remember that constructive criticism is not negative.
Then, take time to check your conversation with others, are you being negative? - Check your thoughts and thinking process - remember that if you are thinking negatively the only person you will harm is yourself.
Remove those thoughts as you would a faulty slide from a projector, discard them, you have the capacity to do that and your mind will respond if you are strong enough and willing enough to discard a negative thought.
Build a bullet proof screen around you, so that negative comments or behaviour from other people cannotl penetrate. You can do this by instantly recognising negative criticism or conversation.
From time to time, check the company you are keeping. If you have been mixing in the wrong environment, talk to people who are positive. Go out and mix with people you know have positive, constructive ideas. Mix with people who are doing better than you.
If another person's negativity does get through to you, say to yourself "Why did he or she say that?"
You must remember that no positive person becomes so unfeeling that they can't see life from another person's point of view. It could happen that someone very close to you says something that can be construed as negative; it may be because they are worried, they are concerned or they have fear. By asking yourself "Why did he or she say that?" you will more than likely be able to understand and by reassurance, conversation and looking at the worry from a different point of view, turn the negative into a positive process.
Have your own negative repellent whenever anyone says anything really negative to you just say "fantastic" - no truly negative person enjoys hearing that word; they really run for cover!!
• Remember, the negative is always stronger than the positive.
• Never allow anyone to pollute your thinking
• As a professional you must take care of your attitude
"The most evil, dangerous and cancerous complaint that humanity inflicts upon itself is to be negative" Anon
Today's News: On a positive note, on Friday we completed a run through of the Roundtable - "Harnessing The Power Of Referrals" which we are presenting on Tuesday. It went extremely well and the team - Joanne Black, Paul McCord, Nancy D. Solomon and Steve Martinez, were on top form.
You haven't registered yet? Shame on you! It isn't too late - and if you cannot make the show live, you can download it afterwards - details here
Looking ahead, I will be co-presenting two webinars in June: The first on June 9th, with Linda Richardson - "How The Most Successful Companies Develop Their Sales Teams" - details here
The second, will investigate sales team assessment tools, and focus on the need to regularly audit strengths and weaknesses - more details soon.
Tomorrow: News from the Sales 2.0 Conference in Boston and a FREE ebook from the man who first coined the phrase "Sales 2.0″
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