- on a Friday afternoon you're with your wife at the OBGYN's office for an ultrasound and find out you've lost your fourth baby in the last three years?
- you were trying for the past seven weeks to stay as positive as possible but the vitals never really looked terrific and at one point they thought it was an ectopic pregnancy, but then everything turned more positive a couple of weeks ago?
- your wife wants nothing more on this earth than to have children?
- you know she is the most fabulous creature on the planet and it kills you to see her so hurt?
- you know she is going to start cramping and bleeding and you wish you could take that away from her?
- you also really want to have children but not as much as she does?
- her three older sisters have lots of children and she keeps wondering, "What's wrong with me?"
- you are most of the reason you both delayed starting to try having children until she was 36 because you "just weren't quite ready yet?"
- your friends and family are empathetic but deep down inside you know they're probably getting tired of hearing about it?
- you both are so freakin' tired of dealing with it and talking about it?
- you realize you are still more blessed than most people on the planet and should stop your wallowing?
- you were confronted with the workaday issues of the week like a Webinar that didn't go quite right or a small business launch that resulted in a bit of a yawnish reaction...and after giving your all for many weeks and initially being very frustrated by the results, you now simply do not give a flying crap?
- running the doctor's circuit makes you want to punch a hole in the wall because this is so not even close to being a sure thing -- and there is so much confusing and seemingly conflicting information, not to mention all the noise on the Web?
- people (and doctors) tell you there is still plenty of hope, but the statistics imply otherwise?
- your wife, who is so filled with faith and spirituality, wonders if it's all for naught -- the praying, the diets, the acupuncture, the pills, the shots, etc.?
- you know that being hopeful and positive is the only way, but right now you are anything but?
- people are expecting that predictable sense of humor of yours and instead they get a whooping or complete silence, and perhaps it's the best you can do, and perhaps it's not?
- your wife is sobbing and you simply don't know how to help her?
Exactly what do you say?
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